Chasing Women is Expensive… What to do Instead

Chasing Women is Expensive

chasing women is expensive - man paying for date

Chasing women is expensive.   I’ve wasted plenty of money and time chasing women when I could’ve been making more money.  Some experience with women is valuable.  And I’ve had a great time in my dating life.  But I can tell you without a doubt that chasing women for prolong periods of time is expensive as hell.

Your time could be better spent chasing money and leveling up.  If you want to have a successful relationship or have sex with girls, then you’ll still need to spend time meeting girls, going on dates, texting, and so on.  But this can be greatly reduced by increasing the quality of man that you are, which in turn allows women to make themselves more available to you.

Do you need to invest some time with pursing women?  Yes, if you want sex and affection from women then you still need to put time in the game.  But less is more.  Too many men make it hard for themselves by chasing women when their value is only average.  You’re better off becoming a high quality man and pursuing women who also pursue you.  Chasing women is being desperate for female validation and will cost you tons of time, and ultimately scare away the highest quality women with your weak energy.

If you’re still unsure of how chasing women can be a drain in your wallet, let’s take at how the average man chases girls.

How men waste energy chasing women

Men waste energy chasing women in a multitude of ways.  I could probably write an article that lists 10, 20, or 100 ways that women can be expensive.  But here are the three biggest I can think of based on the emails I get from readers:

  1. Dinner Dates
  2. Loss of time
  3. Divorce rape

Dinner Dates

don't buy expensive meals

Dinner dates, and dates in general, can be a big drain on your wallet.  The ironic thing is that you’ll have a higher chance of getting laid if you go on a cheaper date, like coffee or happy hour.  You can still pay for it, it’s the low investment that allows you to be chill and not get desperate.

However, the majority of guys will think that an expensive dinner date with a girl they just met will buy them sex, affection, and loyalty.  It’s the farthest thing from the truth.

It doesn’t hurt to treat out girls you’ve been fucking or girlfriends out to dates.  You can do that as reward since these are girls that are already sleeping with you.  But blowing a lot of money on new girls, especially on dinner dates, will leave you with a smaller bank account and no action.

Even with girlfriends and girls you’ve been seeing, dinner dates can add up.  I’m guilty of this myself.  When I was in a long term relationship, I’d take my girlfriend out to eat at nice places often.  While I could afford it, and she paid half the time, it still was added up.   I started to change this up by going to cheap but trendy places and make food together at home.

If you have a girlfriend you can still go out sometimes.  But have her help out with costs or don’t make it a usual thing.

But definitely a no-no for girls you haven’t smashed.  Dinner dates are no doubt one of the biggest ways to waste money chasing women.

Loss of time

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Chasing women is expensive simply due to the loss of time.  All the time you spend at the clubs, at the bar, on tinder, texting new girls or on facetime with your girlfriend, is time you could’ve spent working on your business.  It’s time you could’ve used to get closer to becoming financially free.

What do girls you just met, girls you’ve fucked once or twice, and girlfriends/wives of years have in common?  They all want your attention.  And all of it.  Whether it’s the girl who just wants you to look at her so she feels good before blowing you off, the girl who let you fuck in the hopes of taking her out, or your girlfriend, women always want more attention.  It’s part of their survival instincts.  Attention from men means they have resources – whether that resource is dick for reproduction, food, shelter, and so on.

And attention = your time.  Chasing women is expensive because it requires your time.  That’s time that you could’ve leveraged to get ahead.

The girls I’ve fucked or dated give me a few seconds of pleasure when I even remember them.  The time I’ve put into my business exponentially increases the money I make and the standard of living I have in each moment.  Again, those moments are fun and I enjoy looking back at them.  But they’re fleeting compared to the results a business and a purpose gives you.

Divorce rape

jeff bezos - divorce rape

Unfortunately, chasing women at the highest level – getting married – can lead you to divorce rape.  Which gives “chasing women is expensive” a whole new meaning.  It’s one thing to waist dinner dates and a few hours on the phone with a girl.  At least you’ll get laid here and there and have a relationship that will have brought you some joy.

But divorce rape is the biggest way in which chasing women can be extremely expensive.  In the West, a divorce can cost a man half of his assets, alimony (payments to his ex-wife for lifestyle), and child support.  I have no quarrels with paying to support your own children, although many men suffer unfair child support that goes to the mother’s lifestyle.  What I have a problem with is alimony at any level and 1/2 of a man’s net worth.

This kind of divorce rape will make marriage an expensive endeavor for any man.  In fact, with no prenup or legal protection, you’re screwed.

Chasing one woman to lock her down for marriage can be the most expensive decision fo your life if she chooses to divorce you down the road.

Chase success instead

How to be productive

Do you have to chase women a little bit?  Sure, maybe a little.  But not that much.  What you should really chase is success.  And that can look  like a million things as well.  Here’s a few key areas to rise up in your own life:

Build a business

Build yourself a business.  Your business is your wealth machine.  It’s how you’re going to make money on your own, possibly become rich, travel + live where you want, and have total control over your life.  Start a business and expand it.  This will keep you busy so girls will naturally chase you.  And once you become successful, the money + status will raise your value in the sexual market place.

Lift weights

If you don’t know, now you know.  Lifting weights is one of the easiest and best ways to chase success.  You’ll be able to see results immediately.  You’ll feel better, be more capable of defending yourself, you’ll look better, and girls will find you more attractive.  Lifting weights makes you more of the catch, rather than chasing the catch you see in hot women.

Invest in your skills

Invest in skills that make your life better.  That can be hobbies like latin dancing.  Or it can be things like web design, videography, personal training classes, engineering, etc.  It could mean going back to college or taking a course on Udemy.  Or even going out to a dance class or martial arts gym.

Invest in skills that will help you increase your money, your fitness, your livelihood, and your happiness.  Do things that will make you more desirable in the work field, in dating, and even to yourself in your own eyes.

Create a social life

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Creating a social life will bring you more fulfillment than you might think if you don’t have one.  Many of us men, especially on the internet, are natural introverts.  We don’t need people to feel energized.  In fact, being alone is energizing to us.

But creating a social life, even as an introverted man, will do wonders for you.  Humans are still social creatures.  And even though it can be draining to have a large group of friends, you’ll feel better about yourself.  It feels good to have friends who want to have a good time with you.

Of course it can be hard to have a social life when you’re starting a brand new business.  But once you’ve spent a few years building it up, or you haven’t started yet, creating a social life will let you have a good time with friends.  It can still be expensive to have a social life, but it can be done much cheaper compared to chasing women.

Get girls to chase you

Have a dope social profile and powerful dating profiles.  You do this by using cool pictures of your dope life.  You can get a photographer to get you doing cool things, or better yet just get friends to take pictures with you and of you.

There still needs to be some pursuit of women if you want to get laid and have relationships.  But you don’t need to chase them like a desperate little boy.  Instead, build your value (looks, style, status, money, confidence), and give them something to desire.  And  then pursue  the girls that desire you and let their desire for you be known.  These girls will be down to date you, fuck you, and they’ll be more inclined to put way more effort into you.  All of the extra time you chased girls with in the past can be used to better your life.  And in the downtime you do have to talk to women, you’ll be talking to girls who want to get with you.

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