Oneitis Cure: Full Guide on How to Stop Obsessing over any Girl

Oneitis cure

curing oneitis

Finding a oneitis cure is necessary if you want to get over any girl you can’t stop thinking about.  Oneitis is what is referred to in the red pill community and forums as obsession over a particular girl.  Having oneitis is terrible, and will lead to a huge downfall if you’re not careful.

Being obsessed over a girl is one of the worst things a man can do.

It will kill your manhood.

Oneitis can turn an alpha male into a beta, ball-less bitch and completely demoralize him.  If you’re suffering from oneitis right now then this post is written for you.  You have to be willing to admit that you’ve let one particular woman overtake your mind and that you want to break free.

What causes oneitis

Oneitis is caused by you becoming obsessed with a woman to the point where you think she’s more special than any other girl in the world.  Many guys get extreme oneitis while they’re dating a girl or after a break up.  But they are cases where guys get a oneitis crush over a girl they’ve see casually a few times.  This usually happens to younger guys when they meet or bang a really hot girl.

But either way, you’re in desperate need of a oneitis cure when start to put a girl on a pedestal.  You start imagining your life together and think she’s this amazing person.

It’s caused by you investing too much time and mental energy into thinking about her.  We all have a void that we search to fill.  If you have a purpose then this takes care of this.  Or if you’re a player and see multiple women then you also avoid getting attached to one girl.

But when you only have one girl you’re talking to and you build her up in your head, then you start to become obsessed with her.  You can learn how to stop oneitis ahead of time if you realize that you’re what’s valuable in your own life.  And that you have big goals to reach that are more important than any girl.

However, since you’re reading this you’re probably already working in curing oneitis rather than preventing it.

Oneitis signs

You likely already know if you need to find a oneitis cure.  It’s not difficult to take a step back and realize you’re obsessed with a girl.  But in case you’re unsure, a few common oneitis symptoms:

  • You call or text her more than she does to you
  • Depression at the thought of life without her
  • Extreme jealousy when you see her talk to other men
  • Accepting bad or disrespectful behavior from her
  • The thought of sleeping with attractive women other than her isn’t appealing
  • You’re willing to lose half your net worth to marry her
  • You’d take her back if she cheated on you
  • She makes you happier than anything else in life

If you have any or all of these symptoms, it’s more than likely you need a oneitis cure.

Curing oneitis 

If you’re willing to admit that you fucked up then you can cure oneitis.

But if you’re putting a girl on a pedestal and you’re not willing to admit then you can’t be helped.  Just stop reading. Assuming you can admit you have oneitis is the first step towards curing it.

And instead of finding a oneitis cure, the real way to destroy it is through a process.  I’ve developed a game plan you can follow step by step to finally get over this girl.  Let’s dive into the gameplan.

The Game Plan to a Oneitis Cure

  1. Get out or step back from any current relationship
  2. Get over any recent or past break ups
  3. Start new Hobbies
  4. Fuck more women
  5. Have a team of women
  6. Reconnect with your bros
  7. Travel
  8. Create and pursue your Purpose

1. Get out or step back from any current relationship

getting out of a relationship

Easier said than done, but being around the girl you have oneitis over will just make it worse.  Most guys have oneitis over their current girlfriend or an ex.  Usually an ex girlfriend who dumped them.  I have so many men write to me asking about ways to get their ex back.   They have a serious case of oneitis for their ex girlfriend.

And if you have oneitis over any particular girl you’re dating, you need to break it off or step back.  You need to take control of the situation and grow your manhood.

How to know if you have Oneitis for a girl you date?

The answer – When you put up with shit that you know isn’t acceptable.  And when you see signs that she’s losing interest.  Because women tend to lose interest when you get too attached.

Another way to tell that you have severe oneitis is if you’re becoming a captain save a hoe.  This is where you do things to take care of her financially more than needed.  It’s where you make yourself the beta bucks thinking this will cause her to love you more.  The man can earn money.  But you’re throwing money in her face to win her love.

Avoid it in the future 

You can get into a relationship in the future and avoid oneitis.  But if you already have it in this relationship then you might be fucked.  You’re probably already starting to push the girl away.

Never Obsess

Obsessing over any individual girl is never a good idea.  It’s bad for your

And it’s bad for her too, because she’ll lose her interest in you.  If you’re reading this and you have a girlfriend, and you have oneitis with her, you can do one of two things.

  • You can break up with her
  • Or you can wait until she is fucking and sucking someone new, and then dumping you

If you end it, then at least you save your self respect.  And you might even be able to get her back in the future, although not recommended.  You can also become the alpha male in the relationship.  But this will involve a massive shift in the relationship dynamics.  It will take a big effort on you to

  1. increase your sexual market value
  2. run dread game
  3. and reverse roles to where you’re leading the relationship

You’ll need to start to pull your attention back and focus on your purpose.  You’re putting your source of happiness in other things besides her.

If she ended it

If she ends it, it’s likely that you’ll be even more depressed than the first option, and you will have close to no chance of ever getting her back.  At least if you aren’t working on a oneitis cure you can start to improve your life and distance yourself.  And she might gain more interest in you.  Women want a man who they see as higher value.

However, it’s better just to break things off and start with a clean slate.

But since most of you have oneitis over her, you probably won’t break it off.  If that’s you, then the break up is going to be even tougher.

2. Cure Oneitis by getting over any recent or past break ups

get over past break ups

If you get over the girl, then your oneitis will be cured.

Sounds easy right?  Well, obviously easier said then done.  You need to get over any recent or past break ups that you haven’t dealt with yet.  If you’re in a relationship and it’s going down hill, then at the very least you should start mentally preparing for the break up.

Although like I said above, it’s better just to do it now.  Your oneitis means you’re glorifying one girl.  You get rid of it by taking her off the pedestal. That can’t happen if you’re not over an ex girlfriend.  You need to do everything in your power to get over her.  That means

  • Accepting that she’s not special
  • Accepting what you had is over now
  • Getting rid of any pictures or anything that reminds you of her
  • Living your life again – getting out of the house and going out

And it also means do the following.

3. Start new Hobbies

Curing oneitis is about doing more things to replace the void you’re feeling.  It’s the absolute best time to start new hobbies you always wanted to try.

Lifting weights is one of the best things you can do.  Your sexual market value will go up.  And you’ll raise your testosterone, which you need as much a possible right now.  If you’re already lifting weights, then add in a new hobby.

Martial arts

Do a combat martial art, like boxing, muay thai, or brazilian jiu jitsu.  You’ll get in fantastic shape, meet new male friends, and be part of a community.  This is essential in getting over your ex.

You’ll also gain a new sense of confidence.  Knowing you can fight and defend yourself if the situation every arises will give you a sense of power of haven’t felt if you’ve never trained before.


Another amazing hobby to add is dancing.  Most pick up artists or dating coaches won’t tell you to go learn how to dance.  And I have no idea why.  Dancing is fun, will get you around a ton of women, and will help you get way more women.  If you’re not fat, dress decently, and can dance, then your options increase tenfold.

It’s what I recommend to all of you guys if you want to know how to cure oneitis.  Dancing will put you around tons of women and will show you that there are tons of women out there.

Invest in learning how to dance

It takes some time to invest in learning how to dance.  But it’s totally worth it.  After a few months you’ll be better then the average club goer by far.  I recommend salsa.  You can go to salsa clubs, do a lesson, then do social dancing.

I do salsa with girls at salsa clubs of course, but also regular hip hop clubs, and they love it.  It’s fun as fuck, builds you up as the top dog on the dance floor, and you’ll pull tons of women.  Plus, it’s actually a lot of fun.  One of the best hobbies to start when you’re trying to get over one girl.

4. Fuck more women to help with Curing Oneitis

fuck more women like dan bilzerian

A big part of developing a onetis cure is fucking more women.  This will almost always cure it if you didn’t have oneitis for a girlfriend or ex.  Like you were just crushing one some girl.  And if you have oneitis for a girl in a past relationship, then fucking more women is an essential part of moving on.

When you fuck more women you feel better.  Not forever, it won’t being you eternal happiness.

But it will make you feel better for now.  And you’ll prove to yourself that you can still get other women.  It’s one thing just to say it to yourself.  Catching oneitis sucks, but you got it because you were only fucking one woman.  And you become obsessed with her.  Then you start to value her above other women.  And you think you can’t get any better or get with other women.

When you do it, you know it

But when you go out there and fuck 5, 10, or even 15 new women, you know it to be absolutely true.  And don’t just hook up with a bunch of women and be sloppy.  Give them the best sex they ever had.  Your ego will thank you.  And building up your ego is actually important at this stage in your life.

The reason being is it will help you to stop pedastalizing the girl you had oneitis for.

You realize that you can fuck all of these other women, so sex isn’t a big deal.  It’s easy for you to get.

A lot of guys are emotional enough to act like it’s not even about the sex.  It’s not everything, but would you really have oneitis for the girl you do if she had a dick or no vagina?  I bet that oneitis would disappear right away.  Think about it for a second.  No pussy for you to rest in.  Still think you’d be obsessed with her?

Sex is not that important in the grand scheme of things, but fucking other women and having an abundance will do a ton for you curing oneitis.

5. Have a team of women

have a team of women

Once you start fucking other women you can start building a team.  A team means you have different regular women you see for sex.  They don’t actually see each other like the picture above.  At least not on purpose.

You can have 2, 3, 4, or more women on your team at once.  Having 3-4 consistent women, along with new ones to test for the team, is plenty for me.

But even having just 2 girls you see consistently will help to further continue your oneits cure. In essence, you’re becoming a player.  A player is a step above just fucking new women.  You can hit and quit some women, but a player always has a team.

One is too close to none

This helps you to never be dependent on one women for sex, and even just feminine energy in general.  You’ll realize that you don’t need that particular girl you were praising anymore.  Perspective is a crazy thing.

You see the world a different way when you have a girl who will come suck your dick on Monday night and a girl who will fuck and then cook on Wednesday night.

Women are hypergamous.  They go after the best options they get.  Some see one man at a time and get others lined up.  But many women are seeing multiple men in today’s age.  You need to counter this by seeing multiple women.  That way you can be a true player and never rely on just one woman while you’re in the bachelor mode.

6.  Destroy obsession by reconnecting with your bros

The reason girls move on so much easier than guys is because they have a support system.

Besides just finding new dick to suck and fuck, they have friends to talk to and comfort.  Men try to be tough, but break ups can be devastating.  We’re social creatures.  Even if we’re introverted and don’t mind being alone, we all enjoy being close to someone at some level.

And after a break up or getting divorce raped, most men have no one to turn to.  Curing oneitis is much easier if you have a tight group of bro’s to turn to.

Don’t complain, just bond with your boys

You don’t have to be a bitch and talk about your problems.  But having friends to go out with, have a few drinks with, workout with, and so on will make getting over this girl much easier.

If you’re in a slump, you can ride off the positive energy of your bros to make you feel better.  Chances are that you neglected your bros while you had oneitis.  If so, then reach back out to them and stop neglecting your friends.

And if you have no friends, then get some.  Go to a martial arts gym, or somewhere where you can find likeminded men.  Create some friends and do shit with them.

7. Travel and explore the world

This one only applies if you can afford it.  But if you have the funds, then traveling can be one of the best ways to jumpstart your perspective.

The world is a big place.  But with modern technology, you can be on a plane in a different continent by tomorrow.

If you ever wanted to travel, this is the perfect time to do it.  Going on that trip to Thailand or France will be fun as fuck.  You’ll get to see a new part of the world, experience a new culture, and maybe even fuck a few new girls on the trip as well.

Just one girl

You’ll be reminded that the one girl you were obsessed with is just one person in an incredible planet we live on.  There are 7.6 Billion people on the planet, have of those are girls.  And a fair amount of those girls are 18-30.

And the traveling isn’t just about fucking new women from other countries.  It’s about moving.  Getting out of your city and becoming inspired by what is out there for you.  It’s about stirring up your imagination of what’s out there and what the future holds for you.

Better yet, travel to somewhere you’d consider moving to.  This trip can give you the motivation to create a new life for yourself. is a great place to start.

8. Create and pursue your Purpose

how to find your purpose

The most important long-term strategy to a oneitis cure is to create your own purpose in life.

Becoming a true man means you put your purpose before any girl.

If you don’t have a purpose you need to

  • Find something you love/enjoy
  • Make sure you can make $ doing it
  • Get good at it

And then start a business.  Your purpose, in the form of a business, needs to be your #1 priority in life.

It will give you money, success, and fulfillment.  Three things that you’ll never get from the girl your obsessing over.  And ironically, those three things will get you her or a multitude of other women.  It will give you something to focus on while you’re getting over her.

Your purpose will always give back to you when you give your energy to it.  You can’t say the same for the girl you have oneitis over.  If anything, you should pedestalize your purpose, your business, above everything else.

Pedestalize building your wealth.  You’ll be rewarded for this in time.

Oneitis vs love

I’ve gotten questions asking what’s the difference with oneitis vs love.  So let’s break that down.

Love is misunderstood.  Love is something you feel.  It’s a state in which you feel extremely happy and positive.  You can feel love for yourself, for your family, for your favorite ice cream, for a hobby, for a pet, or for a woman.  Love is an emotion you feel, and things can bring out that feeling or make it go away.

You don’t love a woman.  You feel love for her.  Love is a state you experience.

Oneitis is when you’re obsessed with a woman.  Severe oneitis is when you think one specific girl is not only special, but she’s the only girl for you.  You can learn how to beat oneitis.  But you must understand that it’s different than love.

And if you understand that love isn’t bound to one girl, but it’s a feeling you experience, then you can be assured that you can indeed get over her.

The biggest mistake Men make Curing Oneitis

biggest mistake, being lazy

The biggest mistake men make is simply not trying to move on from this girl, whether she was a girlfriend, a lover, or just some girl they obsessed about.

Most guys wallow in self pity and lay around doing nothing.  If you try, and the effort in, you’ll get over her.  You need to accept that she’s gone.  And you’re better without her.  Even if you could get her back, you should never get back with an ex.

Overcoming oneitis takes time.  But it will happen.  However, you have to be willing to out in the effort.  Developing a oneitis cure comes down to taking action to live your life for yourself and not someone else.

Too many guys will read the steps I listed above and just not do anything.  They’ll think their situation is different, because this girl is different.  I’m sure she’s great… but there are plenty of other great girls and things you can spend your time on.  No one should have the kind of power over you that oneitis can make you feel.  You should go out and sleep with more women, date around, or at least work on increasing the money in your bank account with more money on the side.

Just put the work in

If you follow the steps above, you’ll know how to stop oneitis have once and for all.  It’s up to you to actually do it.  Accept that you fucked up by obsessing over one girl.  Then get your life on track.

Make changes and kick yourself into action

Force yourself to get out of the house.  Learn how to be a player so you can see other women, create your purpose, and grow yourself as a man.  Master your time management and become a producer.  Focus on bigger and better things, like becoming rich and joining the 1%.

Then you’ll have so many options that you’ll have an abundance mindset.  Finding a oneitis cure just takes a refocusing of your masculine energy into your purpose, other women, and your hobbies.  And when you ever do get in another relationship, keep your purpose first, and be the alpha leader she wants you to be.

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