Signs She’s Losing Interest + How to Build the Attraction Back

Signs She’s Losing Interest + How to Build the Attraction Back

Knowing the signs she’s losing interest will save you time and prevent disappoint from girls you got too excited about.

You’re texting that cute girl you met at grocery store last weekend.  Things seem to be going well, but then all of a sudden she stops texting you back.  You thought you had such a good time for those few moments.  It seemed like she liked you. The texting started off good, she was sending smiley faces, and showed high interest.  But things died down and you never got to meet up with her.

Or that girl you bet at a bar.  She seemed down to earth and willing to meet up.  You agreed to meet up downtown at a different bar. But then the day of you never heard from her and she never showed up.

These are situations where a women might’ve had some interest but then it died down.  Or you were never really sure of how interested she was.  That’s why you need to learn the signs she’s losing interest so you can adjust accordingly.

What causes women to be attracted?

But before we get into the signs she’s losing interest, it’s important to know what causes women to be attracted.

Initially, it’s your things like your looks, status, and your confidence.   Then once you two start talking her attraction can raise based off your how masculine you are overall, and how much you two vibe and connect.

There needs to be some level of attraction, and this can grow if have a strong masculine frame and can engage her well in conversation.

If she has no real interest from the beginning then it’s going nowhere.

Initial attraction, and then your personality.

So let’s start from the framework she has some interest in you.  Meaning she thinks decent or really attractive from the get go.   The way she becomes more attracted to you, or maintains it if it’s already high, is based off your masculinity.  When you show that you’re indifferent to her, like you don’t need her, yet you’re still fun to be around, then her attraction to you will grow.

The more valuable she thinks you are, the more attracted she’ll be to you.  You don’t need to fake being valuable, instead actually working becoming a valuable man.

Basically, women want a man who’s

knowing if girl likes you - girls staring at man

  • indifferent to whether or not he gets her
  • fun to be around (doesn’t mean you need to be funniest guy around, just good vibes with her)
  • ambitious
  • in general a valuable man

It’s crucial to understand this because as we go over the signs she’s losing interest, you should be able to see where you’ve given up your value.

Signs she’s losing interest

Girlfriends and girls you’ve been seeing will take longer than a girl you just met to lose interest.  But all women lose interest faster than you think.  In fact, women lose interest faster than men.  And when a woman loses interest in a man, it can take more to build it back up.

It’s not the end of the world if you see signs she’s losing interest.  But it’s important that you’re able to tell so you can correct any approval seeking behavior that you currently have.

With a girls you just started dating

  1. Doesn’t initiate texting, and keeps things short
  2. Won’t commit to meeting up
  3. Not giving you eye contact or positive body language on a date

1. Doesn’t initiate texting, and keeps things short

stop texting her first

One of the biggest signs she’s losing interest or had little interest to begin with can be seen from her texting.  That’s why knowing how to text a girl is a small but important detail in modern dating.  A girl who never texts you first and gives short responses doesn’t have high interest.

Women are on their phones all the time.  If she wanted to hit you up, she would.

It’s fine if you meet a girl, get her number, and then text her later.  You’ll have to do the pursuing at first with most women.  But if she’s keeping things short with you, or never tries to text you once you two have already texted, she’s lost some interest.

2. Won’t commit to meeting up

It’s a red flag when she won’t commit to meeting up.  Some women, especially hot ones, are texting a lot of dudes and might be short with some texts.  But she’ll still meet up with you if she has a decent level of interest.

But when she won’t commit to meeting up she’s lost interest in you.  If she was down to meet up before but now is giving excuses then her attraction to you has dropped, especially if you already met her in person before.  If you met her online and haven’t met in person then she could just be a time waster.  Or she had initial interest in you but lost it due to life circumstances or your game being weak.

3. Not giving you eye contact or positive body language on a date

date, girl looking away

A woman has a decent level of interest in you if she agrees to meet up.

But one of the major signs she’s losing interest is when she stops giving you eye contact or positive body language.  On the flip side, consistent eye contact + body language is the strongest sign a woman likes you.

Don’t expect her to stare at you the whole time.  But there should be healthy eye contact between the two of you.  And she should also have her legs pointed at you or in your general direction.  If a woman never gives eye contact and doesn’t seem engaged, then she’s losing interest or has lost it all the way.

With a girlfriend or friends with benefits

  1. Less sex or no sex
  2. Doesn’t tell you about her day
  3. Spending more time going out
  4. Starts to shit test you more
  5. Mentions other guys hitting on her more than before

1. Less sex or no sex

less sex in marriage

The less sex you have with a girl the less she likes you.  For men in relationships, you usually start off getting a lot of sex and then this tapers down.  This is normal to an extent, but you should still have regular sex at least 2-3 times per week then you’re maintaining a healthy sex life.  Some weeks it may be 4 times and others maybe once or twice.  However, if sex is hard for you to come by in a relationship then she’s lost a lot of interest in you.

2. Doesn’t tell you about her day

This may seem small, but a woman who’s interest in you will try to talk to you.  This goes for girlfriends and girls you just started dating.  If she’s not trying to talk to you then she’s not looking for your validation.  Which means she’s probably looking for it elsewhere.

It’s not your job to be her best friend and talk for hours.  Contrary to popular belief, your girlfriend or wife shouldn’t be your best friend.  Life partner is one thing, but you two are more than friends.

But when she’s not interested in seeking out conversation with you then she’s losing attraction towards you.  A lack of trying to talk to you is a major warning sign.  The girl should be chasing your time.

3. Spending more time going out

This applies more to girls you’ve been seeing for a while or girlfriends.  One of the big signs she’s losing interest is when she spends more time going out then she did before.  She’s looking to have fun with her girls and meet new guys.  Or she’s trying to make you jealous.  Either way, she’s flaunting her sexuality by putting herself in situations where she’ll have tons of suitors try and shoot their shot.

4. Starts to test or fight with you more

shit test 101

Every woman tests from time to time.  It’s part of how they measure your value and see if you’re still a man.

But when the tests happen more and more – usually because you keep failing them – she’s losing a lot of interest in you.  You’re constantly showing her that you need her validation which turns her off.  You need to be able to recognize and pass tests when they come up to prevent her from losing attraction.

5. Mentions other guys hitting on her more than before

When she mentions all the guys that hit on her then she’s bragging about the male attention she’s getting.  This is a test to see how you react and a sign she’s losing interest all in one.

Every beautiful woman gets hit on often.  And she might tell you about how bad some of the attempts are.  But when she tells you about them more and more, and if she talks about any of them in a positive way, then you are looking at a woman who is openly measuring her options.  She’s flexing her hypergamy on you.

Why women lose interest

Women lose interest for many specific reasons depending on the situation.

But assuming she has some level of interest in the beginning, she lost interest because

  • you failed her tests
  • overall you started acting needy
  • she’s emotionally attached to another

Failed shit test or acting needy

curing oneitis

These reasons apply to girls you just met and long time girlfriends.  Failing a test on a first date or in a relationship can cause her to lose interest quickly.  A long time girlfriend will still stick around for a while vs you might never see the girl you just met again.  But it’s the same type of response.

Failing a test means you failed to hold a masculine frame.  And she saw your value drop.  This will be immediately followed by many of the signs she’s losing interest.  From her body language to her attitude, and how she gets down in the bedroom.  Acting needy is also a big turn off to women.  You can act needy by always texting a girl back right away because you’re never busy, on a date with a hot girl you’re nervous with, or with a girl you’re dating.

These two reasons are the biggest causes of women losing attraction.  If you see signs she’s losing interest, then reflect and see if you’ve been doing either of them.  They usually go hand-in-hand, as failing multiple tests tends to lead to needy behavior and vice versa.

Emotionally attached to another man

If the girl you’re talking to is emotionally attached to another man, then it’s possible that you’ll see signs she’s losing interest, even if you thought you were doing fine.  This can happen with girls you just met, or even cheating girlfriends.

In this case, given she’s not been in a relationship with you, you’re not at fault.  You’ll handle her the same as you would with a girl that you acted needy or failed shit tests with.

How to build attraction back

dread game

You’ve seen the signs she’s losing interest.  Your chances with her might be gone.  Being beta isn’t an option.  But you’d still like to keep this girl around.  She might be your girlfriend of 5 years or a girl you just started dating.  Essentially, it doesn’t matter.  You pull back.  If she’s your girlfriend, spend way less time with her.  Come home late.  Stay at the gym longer.

Wait until she starts to chase you again.  It may be the next day, 3 days, or 3 weeks.

But with enough time, she’ll either move on or she’ll come back.  If she comes back then you gave her enough time to build attraction and value you above her again.  And if she doesn’t come back then she wasn’t ever going to value you enough.

Women lose interest when you give up your power

man up like the rock

If you acted like a man like the rock, then she wouldn’t think you’re weak.  And you’ll see signs she’s losing interest when you act weak.  Women lose interest when you give up your power.

And you give up your power when you act needy and try to please them.  In turn, alls you end up doing is failing their tests, boring them, and cause them to be turned off by your weak behavior.

Don’t give up your power.  Learn the value you provide as a man.  Make yourself worth something by valuing your time and not always being available.

Understand that woman want a man whose winning in life.  They want a man who’s not desperate for them.  If you’re developing oneitis for this girl then you’re messing up.  Stop that shit and instead get on your purpose.  Focus on building your wealth instead of worrying about this girl.  Chances are she’ll miss you and her interest will rise.

Women need to know that you don’t need them, just want them.  If you get this then you’ll reduce the times when you see signs she’s losing interest.  You’ll be able to keep her attracted to you and maintain fun, healthy relationships with women in your life.

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My 7month pregnant women doesnt send me text or either call me but I always should be the one doing that ,so I dont know what should do should I beg off or give her space as I been supportive to her pregnancy .


Hey man, I’ve been reading your articles and have been following your tips but I’m stuck in this situation:

My girlfriend of a year and a half initiates texting, but she replies in one words and doesn’t start up a topic, I’ve tried to continue the flow of the conversation but she doesn’t “hit the ball” back properly so I don’t message her back when she keeps replying with one-word replies such as “Yeah”, “Damn” etc.

I don’t reply back instantly when she initiates either. What do I do?