Don’t make excuses for low quality women
The last thing a man on the come up needs is low quality women. Yet that’s what’s holding many of you back when it comes to your dating life. Which then translates into your overall experience of life. If you get caught up with low quality women then you’re going to be dealing with more drama and heartache than necessary.
I think we can all agree that we don’t want low quality women in our life. We want the girls we deem as high quality. We want the best looking girls, who are also feminine, smell good, have values, and enhance our lives.
High quality women
There’s no such thing as a perfect woman. We’re not going to put women pedestal. No woman is a unicorn and there’s no way you’re going to let yourself get oneitis for a girl.
However there are high quality women.
There’s guys who are in relationships or who are thinking about getting into a relationship. They also have standards of quality women, but these are going to be more detailed and strict. He’s really going to need to make sure her values are in line with his and she’s worthy of getting the girlfriend or wife title.
Low quality women
The problem is that many of us settle for low quality women. The most obvious is when guys get with girls well below what you think you deserve, whether it’s looks or personality. Like if you can get attractive girls with some effort, but then you start going after low hanging fruit.
Then there’s attractive girls who are extremely promiscuous or just have low morals.
But then there are girls who have low morals and will do things like try to sleep with your friend or other low vibrational behaviors. Everyone is potentially capable of doing bad things. But too many men are still putting up with low quality women who continue to do these bad behaviors. It’s their fault when they do it the first time. But it’s your fault for putting up with it and not getting rid of them.
Low quality women do things like
- lie often
- cheat on you if you’re in a relationship
- cheat on their boyfriends with you
- talk to other guys when she’s exclusively dating you
- disrespect you in public
- talks poorly about all the other men she’s dated
And so on. I’m sure I could make a huge list of all the things low quality women do. But these are just a few.
Looking at these, it seems obvious that these are major warning signs. Actually these aren’t the warnings signs. These are the things the other signs warned you about. But it baffles me how often guys ask me questions about low quality women. They want to know how to turn things around, how to get her to act different, how they can save her.
But what men need to do is stop making excuses for low quality women. Yes, it’s true that a masculine man can put a lot of women in their feminine energy. And many problems you face in your interactions with women are because you are weak in certain ways.
Respect is necessary
However, you need to also realize that there are just low quality women out there. Every girl will test you to a degree. But a high quality woman will have lighter tests, with respect you more, and value what you bring to the table. However a high quality woman can also leave you if you’re acting weak.
Again, not everyone is perfect. Every woman will have their flaws just as you have their own. But there’s a difference between a woman of value and a women who wants to take from you. You can’t try to fix everything with every woman. Some women are just low quality women. And it’s your fault because you weren’t able to tell earlier on. Or you knew they were low quality but kept them around anyways.
Why you make excuses
Men make excuses for keeping low quality women around. The major excuses are one or a combination of the following:
- low value in yourself / low confidence
- laziness to go get other women
- weakness in not being able to walk away
- lack of experience
Low value in yourself / low confidence
A confident man can conquer the world. But a man with no confidence is going to get walked on. Even a beta male can muster up enough confidence from time to time to get some kind of woman. However, his options are limited. If that’s you, then be wary of the women who are interacting with you.
Some guys knowingly settle for low quality women because that’s all they believe they can get. Quality is subjective, but low quality in their eyes.
Lack of self belief
That’s all you believe you can get. You don’t think you can get the high quality women. So you settle for girls that you can barely like. Or you don’t think that you can get a beautiful girl who gets on your schedule and wants you to lead. But low confidence is a self fulfilling prophecy.
Because you vibrate at a low level, you’re not able to get the high quality women out there. You settle for low quality women because you don’t feel worthy to get the women you really want.
If this describes you, then you need to work on yourself. You need to lift weights, dress better, develop sex appeal, and your get confidence up. You need to build value in yourself on the outside and the inside. Then once you start getting some higher quality women, you’ll believe in yourself.
Laziness to go get other women
Scores of men are too lazy to go out and get new women. They settle for a low quality woman who drags them down. Or they have different women but they know that these women aren’t up to their standards in what they can get.
It takes some effort to get quality women, in terms of looks and personality. And it takes effort actually getting out there. Whether that’s talking to a lot of girls, going out, or even just raising your value so high so they come to you. It takes some work to get the best women in your life.
If this is you, you either need to dedicate more time to the game, or raise your value so high women will flock to you.
Weakness in not being able to walk away
How many of you have a friend who had a girlfriend that was nothing but trouble? Or more likely you yourself had a girlfriend at one point who was a low quality woman? Especially if we think she’s high quality because she’s hot on the outside, and then soon learn she has a million issues.
A masculine man can do a lot to keep a woman feminine. But current Western society has messed up a lot of women and men alike. And that means a lot will be low quality in terms of their values and what they bring to the table.
Sometimes a woman can be a decent quality girl, but then become low quality when she starts to test a man and the man is weak.
That’s where you as a man step in. You need to do the the only thing you can when you find yourself dating a low quality woman. Dump her. If she’s truly a low quality woman, move on and never talk to her again. If she was just acting up and didn’t do any major mess ups, then you can let her come crying back to you.
In either case, you need to be willing to walk away. Many of you have girls you need to destroy oneitis for and walk away for good.
Lack of experience
The younger or less experienced guys may just not be aware of what low quality women are like. When you’re young, you think any decent looking chick is worthy. But once you date better women, you realize what a fool you were in the past.
Experience is the greatest teacher of all.
It’s ideal to learn from mistakes from other people so you don’t have to make them yourselves. But it’s a fact of life that you need to experience some things for it to really hit home. I’m sure many of you have had moments of truth with women. Moments that you’ve heard from movies or from friends but couldn’t imagine it happening to you. And then it does. You get heart broken. Or see a woman do something you never thought she would do. And then you man the up and learn to navigate through the world.
We learn a lot about what we like from women and what separates low quality women vs high quality women through our own life circumstances.
Low quality women will make your life worse
Low quality women are women who take more than they give. Dealing with women always means dealing with some level of drama and putting in some effort. That’s the name of the game.
But you want to invest in attractive women, who are feminine towards you, and who will invest back even more into you. Whether you’re seeing a few women or you’re in a committed relationship, start raising your standards. Cut out the low quality women who don’t add value, and only deal with the women you really want to.
Yo J, thx for the content brother, u always come with some GOOD shit, really appreciate to read your articles. I have a little situation here and would really appreciate your thought on this. I’m in a relationship with a 7-8 and it’s been 9 months now, but I started talking again to this chick that I used to just fuck 2 years ago, meme girlfriend is very beautiful and all but she lacks of experience on the sexuel level, the other bitch was a freak and I kinda miss that but I also didn’t wanted her as a girlfriend… Read more »
It depends on what you want man. You miss that girl because she was a freak from before. But there’s a million girls like that. If the girl you’re with lacks experience on a sexual level, then you have the opportunity to imprint her on a much deeper level. So if you want a girlfriend that’s going to do anything for you and going to be totally into you, then you’re in a good position. Even if you wanted to dump her and go to a freak, which you’d regret if your girl is good to you, don’t go back… Read more »
How to find if she is a quality woman? She talks about the love and marriage with me.. But she is talking to another married man texting him and tells that he is a caretaker. But still she is close to me. She is saying she wanna propose me and that love kind of stuff. How to find if she is worth or not? She is not more womanly. She says she is also not expressive and only more expressive to me. When I ask about him she says that is nothing and usual and she says I like you… Read more »
She’s talking to another man, and she doesn’t even stop when you confront her about it. She’s not worthy for anything serious. She be there to provide you with casual sex but it sounds like you’re way too invested in her. You’ve made mistakes by arguing with her when she’s openly being hypergamous and not respecting you at all. You’re coming off very weak and you’ve already tolerated too much. The way you act is like how a woman acts when she finds her man texting another girl. Except she’s in the player role right now and you’re in the… Read more »
I want to leave her but before that I want to prove her she is hypergamous. Can I ask her out? Because I need to see her regularly. If l leave she ll come and ask. How to handle that. I need to work with her for somethings official. How to handle that? What can I say as a reason for leaving. Or can I be cold to her no message no call no flirting kind of thing.? Pls help I want to prove her that I’m a mother fucking man bad ass.. Before leaving.. And officially I need to… Read more »
So this girl wants you to propose to her but she’s not your woman? You need to stop taking her seriously. She’s running game on you by having the other married guy as her desired option and you as a back up. You can’t prove to her you’re a badass man or any kind of man when you need to prove to her anything. That’s missing the whole point. It’s not about proving anything to her. It’s about you needing to man up for yourself. You’re too focused on needing this girl still. Until you change that she and other… Read more »
Right now what I am going to do is completely remove her from the relationship perspective and just talk to her like other girls. I won’t allow her to take advantage of me. And the sametime I ll just stand on my own. I ve now fixed myself I don’t want her. I just speak to her like others. So I am clear I don’t want her. And no contact like message or call from now. And I don’t seek validation from her as you told. I won’t take her serious from now. I will be in a player mindset.… Read more »
Solid man. Keep up the good energy.
It came to my conclusion the girl was low quality she even said at one point crying her words I don’t deserve u u deserve much better
The funny thing I never pursued her she pursued me
Hey man, great stuff. You know, I know a dude that I think seems really tough and cool and Alpha, but he recently went back to his ex to have a child with her and get back together again (She moved away from him twice or so two years ago.). His ex was cheating on him (More than once as well.) as a PROSTITUTE at a Strip Club! He also wrote once that she moved away from him when he was still mourning his sisters death. Now, this guy seems really Alpha and I sort of think that he is… Read more »
I just don’t get it.
Thanks brother, appreciate the support. Sounds like a unhealthy relationship between two people who can’t do better. Doesn’t sound like “alpha” behavior to me. Not sure what your question is.
Thanks . I actually just found you on YouTube and subscribed. I watched one of your videos and I am going to check out more. The question was: Why would an Alpha dude go back to this? Granted, they have been together years and do seem to love each other but, I mean, isn’t that a lot of drama for a man? She used to prostitute (I think that she stopped .) at a Strip Club, they had an on and off thing for years, but she was definitely doing it while they were together (She lied to him about… Read more »
I spoke to her once a little over a year ago and she said they weren’t together, it was a really toxic situation, she had to go to Court over him. I just don’t get it.
Thanks for the support my man. Okay I see the confusion. You’re perceiving this guy to be alpha. But the world isn’t black and white. Most guys aren’t consistently alpha or beta. Most guys are alpha or beta depending on the situation. Alpha just means you’re in the best position. So even though this guy may “seem alpha” because he’s attractive or he can get other women, he’s still beta with her because he’s emotionally caught up with this woman, and she is as well. There are celebrity men who are good looking and can sleep with tons of women,… Read more »
Understood . I just don’t get it. It seems like he’s such a cool guy, but it seems that he just won’t move on. It just doesn’t make sense to have a kid with this woman. He wrote that she left him two weeks after his sister died . Isn’t this kind of low value ? I know that they spent years together but, is this normal? I’ve never known a dude being okay with being cheated on (More than once .) as a prostitute , even if he cheated himself.
And, isn’t it kind of unhealthy ? What man would have a kid with a woman that was going behind his back a number of times as a prostitute. A few months ago, she wrote that it was a failed relationship . It is just seems so weird . Isn’t that sort of toxic?
I always thought that this dude was cool, this just seems weak and desperate.
Good point about that, though (The Alpha/Beta thing.). It just seems like the dude won’t grow or move on in life. I admire him, but
It’s also my understanding that a high-value man wouldn’t tolerate things like cheating, hooking behind their backs, etc. Yeah, it’s different for Hollywood folks . Also, they have money.