How to Fuck a Girl Properly: Complete Guide to Learn How to Have Sex for Men
Every man should learn how to fuck a girl properly and know how to have sex.
This isn’t something taught in schools, but it’s essential information for any young man who’s interested in women.
Knowing how to have sex is important for your relationships
Believe it or not, I don’t promiscuity is the ideal path for a man. And therefore I don’t want to lead guys astray. While having sex with women is better than watching porn, just trying to sleep with as many women as possible is an empty pursuit.
However, I decided to leave this up. The reason being is I know a lot of you will come here to learn how to fuck, but then you’ll see a bunch of the content not just on dating, but also on financial freedom, purpose, fulfillment, self-belief, getting your shit together, how to be a man, and living your ideal life.
Secondly, knowing how to fuck a girl is essential if you have a girlfriend or wife. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to do a good job in the bedroom. And while there’s tons of info on how to get girls, get laid, etc., there’s not a lot of good info on how to have sex and please your woman. A lot of guys will turn to porn to try and learn how to have sex, and then get a messed up idea of how to fuck.
Knowing how to fuck is important for a man in a relationship. Will every single time you have sex be the same or be exactly as I outline below? No. But this will serve as a guide for men so guys have a point of reference of what do in the bedroom.
Need to be able to pleasure your woman
Maintaining relationships with women requires communication, trust, leadership, and respect. However, it’s a shame if a man is a solid dude but can’t lay it down in the bedroom. I want you guys to find good women and I want you to be the all around package. If you learn how to have sex and get good in the bedroom, then you can be the man your woman wants desires and is satisfied with. Is sex everything?
No, of course not. However, good sex shouldn’t just be a bonus, it should be the standard. You can take the time to figure out how to fuck her right on your own. Or you can read this guide and let me help you out a bit.
Again, I don’t actually condone trying to fuck as many girls as possible. This is an empty pursuit and won’t lead to your happiness as a man. That’s where your purpose comes in. But you should know how to fuck a girl the right way. That way the women you date can get the benefit of having a man that is not only ambitious, authentic, and a rock solid dude, but they also get a man that knows how to make them bust.
Why learn how to fuck her well?
There’s two main reasons you should learn how to fuck a girl properly. The first, and most important, is that it’s good for you.
You’ll get more
- self esteem
- sex consistently
- dramatically higher likelihood of girlfriend/wife staying loyal
Good for you
Learning how to have sex and how to fuck her the right way will does a lot of good for you.
Self Esteem
It feels good when you learn how to fuck a girl properly so she begs for more. There’s nothing like it when it comes to your self esteem, especially if you’re not already good at sex. Sex itself can be a powerful experience. Knowing how to fuck a girl properly ensures you’re able to make it amazing not just on a physical level, but also on a mental and spiritual level.
More sex in your life
Getting girls addicted to you can add more consistent sex in your life. When you learn how to fuck a girl properly the way she wants, women will want to fuck you. You’ll have the girls calling you back for more. Which leads to a better a more fulfilling sex life.
Being good at sex will get you more sex… go figure. It make sense. Knowing how to have sex the way girls like means that they come back because they want what you offer in the bedroom.
If you have a wife or girlfriend, knowing how to have sex the right way will ensure that you two have a great bedroom life.
Keep your girl loyal
Knowing how to fuck a woman properly and fuck her well is crucial for your relationships.
You know how women can cheat on a good guy.
But it’s not all doom and gloom.
You can use what’s being put against you. If you learn how to fuck a girl well, then you can dramatically increase the chances of your girl being loyal to you. This is important if you have a girlfriend, and absolutely CRITICAL if you have a wife.
Good for the girls you fuck
Girls also love good sex. Knowing how to fuck a girl properly should will be physically pleasurable for the girls.
Women are sexual creatures like ourselves. Yet they have a harder time cumming during sex due to most guys sucking at sex. However, they have the ability to bust and bust and bust. They’re not like men where it’s done after you bust.
Your girlfriend / wife benefits from you learning how to have sex well. Plus, it lets her let put a lot of pent up energy from her stressful life. Whether it’s work, an ex boyfriend, bills, or her family, women build up a lot of stress. Being able know how to fuck a girl so well will allow her to mind and body to release the stress during sex. And she’ll love you for that.
Women can get sex much easier then men. But it’s very hard for them to find a man who actually will fuck them properly, and do this consistently.
How to fuck a girl the right way
Here’s a quick table of contents. I recommend you read the whole thing and don’t skip ahead in the sections. Everything here is important is you want to be good at sex.
If you have the fundamentals down, then you can read once and move on to the actual “how to have sex” section. If you don’t know how to last long in bed or you’re not that familiar with sex, then spend some time re-reading the fundamentals section. Then go on to read the article.
Feel free to bookmark this article and reference it back on your journey to becoming a sex god.
Fundamentals
- Defining quality sex + standards for being good at sex
- Dick power – hard, healthy dick
- Dick control – how to last long
- What you should keep near your bed (condoms, lube, rope or kinky toys)
How to fuck a girl properly
- Flirting
- Foreplay
- Sex and starting slow
- Best positions
- Rough sex or slow?
- BDSM and light bondage
- How to tell if she cums?
- Talking dirty
- Speaking to her soul – become a sex god
What to avoid
- asking her if she had an orgasm
- starting off too fast
- eating before
What to do
- be in shape
- limit your alcohol
- try your best with every girl
- consistent sex partner
Fundamentals
First thing we must be clear is defining good sex.
What is good sex? And how to know if you’re good at sex?
There’s many definitions of ways to classify good sex. I can talk about the emotional connection, how long it should last, and so on and so forth. But the best measure of good sex is orgasms. The more you can make her orgasm, and the more powerful they are, the better the sex is.
And as a man, it’s about making her orgasm over and over again. And making her cum powerfully. That’s what good sex is. Simple as that. Then you can cum at the very end if you choose. I think there’s huge value to practicing semen retention and not busting all the time. You can harness this energy in other areas of your life. However, I also get it if you want to bust sometimes, so whether you decide to bust once in a while, sometimes, or every time is your choice.
If you can make her bust, then you can consider yourself good at sex.
Standards for good sex
As you get better and know how to have sex well, your standards for what good sex is will rise.
Cumming isn’t the whole thing that makes sex good. However, if you’re trying to gauge how much she is getting her urges filled, this is the way to gauge it.
You have to do your job as a man and make sure she gets off. It’s not about being chivalrous or a nice guy. It’s about making the sex mind blowing and getting her addicted to your cock. You want your girlfriend / wife to look to you as her sexual fantasy.
Not just about cumming
Making her cum over and over again is the standard for good sex.
That being said, there are other things during sex that also matter. Like the connection you two have and how much you can feel each other.
Dick power – hard, healthy dick
You need to have a hard, healthy dick before you learn how to fuck her well. It’s just an essential requirement. I’m assuming most of you have no problem with getting a powerful erection. So you can skip to the next section about dick control. Being good at sex requires a healthy dick.
But if you’re reading this and you have trouble with maintaining an erection, then don’t feel bad. According to some sources, 1 in 4 men under 40 suffer from it to some degree. Some men will use cialias or viragra. A natural substitute for this is Yohimbe. However, it’s best you talk to your doctor about these things.
Dick control – how to last long
In addition to having dick power, you need to have dick control to know how to fuck a girl properly. Dick control doesn’t mean you’re fucking her well, but it’s still an essential tool if you want to do that. What I mean by dick control is your ability to last long. Meaning you can control your orgasm. So you can be fucking her slow, fast, rough from behind with her fat ass in your face, and still not orgasm until you want to.
Premature ejaculation
While 20-30% of men suffer from premature ejaculation at some point in there lives, I’d argue it’s closer to 90%. We’ve all busted quick. I’m guilty of this myself. Premature ejaculation is usually defined as men cumming within one minute or under 3 minutes into sex.
But I’d say while most men can last longer then 1 minute, most can’t last as long as they want. If that’s you, then you need to get dick control.
Getting dick control
I have a whole article on how to last long in bed and gain dick control.
So go ahead and study that up if you don’t have complete control of your orgasm. But in short, you can gain dick control through kegel exercises, edging, and then practicing during sex. Kegel exercises for men should focus more on reverse kegels than regular kegels. Both should be a part of your routine so you’re balanced within your body.
Reverse kegels + edging
However, reverse kegels, the same muscle / feeling as pushing out a shit, is what you do during sex to delay your orgasm. Too many men focus on regular kegels, the same feeling as holding in or stopping a piss / shit, and then bust a nut when they try this during sex.
If you want to learn how to fuck a girl properly, then you need focus on reverse kegels, with regular kegels in moderation to balance, and edging. Then get a consistent sex partner to practice how to have sex on, and try to reach different sex milestones. You need to know how to last long if you want to be able to learn how to have sex and how to fuck her the right way.
What to keep near your bed
Learning how to have sex isn’t just about techniques. It’s also about preparation. Keep these things by your bed and you’ll have a better, stress free time during sex.
- Condoms
- Lube
- Pillow
- Paper towels
Condoms
Condoms are essential for the single guys out there. Admittedly, they make sex worse. It’s much easier to learn how to get better in bed for guys if you’re going raw. Because condoms distract from the sex process and can also hurt your erection strength.
If you have a girlfriend or wife and have sex without a condom, then this is more ideal for the best feeling and also the best connection. But if you’re not in a an exclusive relationship, then it’s best to wrap up. I know you want to know how to perform in bed and want to give her the best experience. But if you two aren’t exclusive, it’s much safer to wrap up.
Keep condoms near your bed.
Lube
It’s always nice to have some lube around. While it may not seem like an essential for the younger guys, if you’re using a lot of condoms, it can be good to keep around
Pillow
You should have pillows on your bed if you’re not a bum. I recommend one pillow is for your actual head to sleep on. You should have another pillow you don’t care about to use for sex. This is the pillow that you’ll put under her hips during sex so you can go deeper.
Paper towels
Another small, yet important part of learning how to fuck a woman like a sex god is being smooth afterwards. This is actually also more for your sake then hers. Having paper towels around helps you to clean up quickly.
This can prevent any cum in your condom from dripping out and staining your sheets.
And on the off chance she’s on her period and doesn’t tell you, you’ll be able to clean up before you get red stains on your sheets.
Take the effort to learn to fuck her well
The fundamentals are crucial for you to learn how to fuck a girl properly. So if you haven’t mastered them and are still reading, at least go back after reading this and dedicate time to getting them down.
You need to be able to have dick power and dick control in order to implement what I’m about to talk about. But assuming you’ve done that already, or at least will commit to doing that later, then read on.
Flirting
Learning how to fuck a woman the right way starts before you’re having sex. You need to know how to flirt with a girl. It starts from the moment you begin talking to a girl. Flirting with her is essentially like you two are fucking but with words. It’s a way to test to see if the vibes are good for the real sex to happen.
And while you may not give a fuck, women definitely do. Sex to women is about the mind. If you can learn how to fuck their mind, then you can have the body. Before you can learn how to fuck a girl in all types of positions, you need to be able to get into her head.
Mindset
So when you talk to her, imagine you’re fucking the shit out of her and making her cum over and over again. This can be on the first time you meet her, on the first date, or when she has just come back to your place. I don’t care if you guys are talking about the drink you just had or her hobbies. It’s just the way you say things. The way you two eye fuck each other.
If you can figure out how to fuck her with your words and attitude, then she’ll be much more excited for the actual sex. Which means she’ll cum easier, harder, and she’ll be more into it. Which makes everything much better.
Foreplay
Alright, so this is where we’ll really start diving into learning how to have sex and get her addicted to you. Foreplay is just as important as the sex itself. Let me say that again, foreplay is just as important.
Sex is very, very mental for women. If you get her excited with foreplay, everything will be much easier when you actually stick your dick in her.
If you can master foreplay, you’ll know how to be irresistible in bed with women.
Most guys rush into things and the girl doesn’t have enough time to get excited. Don’t be like most guys. Learn how to turn a girl on and spend time on her erogenous zones. Make her want you. If a girl is begging you to fuck her, then knowing how to fuck a girl properly to get her addicted is much easier. Because she’ll already be so horny that she’ll cum much easier for you.
Start slow
Maybe 10 or 20% or less of your sex interactions will be hot and heavy and ripping each others clothes off. But the vast majority should start off slow. You want her to be begging you to fuck her. Figuring out how to fuck a girl properly to get her addicted isn’t too hard if you just slow down a bit. This isn’t set in stone, but general guidelines to follow:
- Kissing
- groping/dry humping
- rubbing her through her clothes
- take shirts off, continue rubbing her pussy
- Get her to take her own pants off, or you take it off
- Rub her pussy directly, specifically the clit
- Make her cum at least 1-2 times before every putting it in
Eating a girl out
You’ll notice that this guide doesn’t include eating pussy. You can make a girl cum and cum by licking her pussy. If you were to do this, this would be after rubbing it (step 7) and before you put it in.
It can be very powerful way to make a women love your tongue. However, I don’t want you guys to mistake eating pussy to be the same as learning how to fuck a grown ass woman the right way.
Eating pussy is technically a submissive act, just like her sucking your dick is a submissive act. I don’t want you guys to become dependent on eating pussy to make her cum. Because then she’ll still crave that big dick energy. She wants some man who know how to fuck a girl well and fill her up.
Can you ever go down on your woman? Yes. If you’re going to do that the go for the clit. I’m not saying it’s a bad method, it definitely works. But you also need to know how to fuck her properly. It can be used instead of rubbing her clit with your fingers. But, don’t get too reliant on it. She’ll still crave a man that fucks her well.
You’ll be the a weaker position when you’re always having to go down on her. Instead, I’ll teach you guys how to fuck a girl with your fingers, then with your dick. This is harder to do then just eating pussy. But it pays off much better in the long run.
However, if you doubt your dick skills, then you can eat pussy to make her cum. It’s the easier part of knowing how to have sex with a woman, and you can still get her addicted to you with your tongue. Just make sure that you still learn how to fuck her during sex as well.
Make her cum before fucking
Figuring out how to fuck a girl properly means you need to make her cum over and over again. Most guys don’t even make a girl cum once. Knowing how to be the best in bed for her will require that you make her bust repeatedly. But don’t worry about that too much right now. First focus on the clit and make her bust at least once.
Once her pants are off, you can rub her pussy directly. Don’t just go to stick your dick in because she’s wet. Figuring out how to have sex like a pro begins before you put your cock inside of her. Make her cum beforehand.
Rub her clit.
Either with your middle finger, or pointer and middle finger combined. It’s best to use whatever hand is dominate. That way you can focus on rubbing the clit. Rub her clit in a circular motion. Keep on doing this and it shouldn’t take too long before she orgasms. But each girl is different. Some girls cum quickly from rubbing their clit. Others come easier from the g-spot, and some like when you stimulate both. And then some can’t handle both.
But majority of the time the clit will make her bust. Boom, you’ve already done more than most men! It’s sad that standards are low for knowing how to fuck a girl properly, but it makes it easy for the rest of us.
Ideally, you can make her cum a second time before putting your dick in. At this point, she should be begging you to fuck her. She will probably try to grab your dick and stick in in herself. But… hold on cowboy.
Put that damn condom on. Unless she’s your girlfriend or wife, you need to protect yourself from these std’s. Knowing how to have sex like a pro is only fun if you walk away clean.
Sex and starting slow
She’s already came, soaking wet, your hard as fuck, and have put your condom on.
Teasing her with it
Now, tease her with it. Rub your dick on her clit. Make it seem like you’re going to stick it in, then continue to rub it. Remember, sex is mental for her. And she’s already had one or two orgasms. And even if she didn’t, you’ve been taking your time and warming her up. She should be dying for you to fuck her at this point. Put your dick in an inch. Then a few more inches. Then pull out a little bit. She should be grabbing your body and this point trying to force you deeper. Go back in, 3/4 of the way, then pull out. Then go slowly all the way inside of her.
Slow, deep strokes
Don’t get too excited and fuck things up. If you want to know how to be irresistible in bed then you need to keep things slow at first. Make her want it. Remember, sex is mental for women. You need to tease her still the sexually dominate man you are. Don’t fuck a million miles an hour yet. Fucking like a rabbit is not the right way to learn how to have sex. You need to take things slow and make her want to you to fuck her brains out.
Even if you can last long, don’t go blasting away. Go in once slowly, back out, then twice, back out, then three times. o this until you get to about 10 or 12 strokes. Slow and deep, all from missionary. Continue to rub her clit while doing this.
You can put your non-dominate hand/arm under her neck so you’re close to her and you can hold yourself up. Or you can put it on the side of yourself. But I’d recommend putting it under her neck. You’ll waste much less energy this way.
Picking up the pace
You can slowly, slowly, start to pick up the pace. Knowing how to fuck a girl properly involves patience and you teasing her. You should get her to cum with the big, deep, slow strokes and clit rubbing with your dominate hand.
But don’t double your speed or triple it. Get a tempo. Still go deep in your strokes, but don’t pull your dick out all the way anymore. Still most of the way, but you can leave the tip in before you go all the way back inside of her. Pick up the pace over the next few minutes. You can kiss her neck, suck on her tits, put your hand on her throat, kiss her. So much you can do to her. A big part of learning how to fuck a girl properly is determining when to pick up the pace and when to slow it down. A man must be sexually dominate yet also be in tune with the girl he’s with in order to know how to have sex in the way that’s going to make her addicted.
Best positions
Tired of just missionary? Well don’t be. Make it more fun. It’s one of the best sex positions for learning how to fuck a girl because you can do so much from it yet maintain control.
Missionary
Missionary is your bread and butter for learning how to fuck a girl properly like she desires Don’t forget that and don’t betray it. When you’re a beginner and learning how to fuck a girl to get her addicted, just stick to missionary. Even if you’re advanced as a sex god, it should still be your main position.
From missionary you can
- rub her clit easy, easiest way to make her cum over and over again
- miss/bite her neck, tits, body
- make out
- have eye contact
- match her breathing
Breathing
There’s two ways you can use breathing. You can match her breathing, or you can do the opposite. For example, when she breathes out, you breathe in. You might even take my right hand off of rubbing the clit to put it on her throat, while your left hand is pulling her hair.
Matching her breathe
Matching her breathe is another way to have sex on a deeper level. Instead of dominating her, this puts you two more in sync. And is about combing your energies. This is more advanced than other stuff you’ll read on how to have sex or how to fuck women. But this is how you get her addicted to you. Breathing is a small detail but an important part of learning how to have sex like a master.
This is also a turn on for women. And makes the two of you feel connected and intense. Whereas the stealing of her air (not literally) makes her feel completely dominated and overtaken by you.
Both work very well. Try out both of these while you’re in missionary. She’ll feel like the two of you are one person. Creating this connection during sex will get her addicted to you. If you can make her cum and feel your energy then you’re learning how to fuck a girl the right way so she comes back for more.
Variations of missionary
Missionary doesn’t have to be the same, you can switch it up
Some variations:
- Have one of her legs over your shoulder
- Both of her legs over both shoulders
- Both of her legs pushed forward by your arms. You can have one arm hold back both legs, which frees up another hand to rub clit, grab her throat, etc. Or you can use both hands to hold back each leg. Her knees should be close to her shoulders
- Missionary on the side, so you’re laying side by side. You can have one arm holding up her top leg. The other arm can rub her clit. You lay on my right side doing this, using your left hand to hold her leg up. Then you use your right hand to rub her clit
- Missionary with her on edge of bed, and you standing up, not on the bed. This gives you tons of control and ability to go deep.
And I’m sure you can come up with others on the fly.
Raised hips
Another thing I should point out while learning how to fuck a girl properly is the concept of raised hips from missionary.
If her hips are raised then you don’t need to figure out how to fuck her in the right angle. It’s easy. Just aim upwards easier and hit her g-spot. I’ve been talking about rubbing a woman’s clit a lot in this article. Because that’s the easiest way to make most girls orgasm. Probably 2/3 of women or so cum easier with their clit, and maybe a 1/3 cum easier with their g-spot. But most can cum from both and leveraging both is important part of your journey to learn how to fuck women properly.
Pillow under her hips
This can be done easily if you put a pillow under her hips.
For an even better angle, have her lay at the edge of the bed. Put a pillow under her hips. Then you stand up, off the bed. You’ll be able to go very deep and also aim upwards with little to no effort to hit the g-spot. If you do this correctly, you can rub her clit with your hand and hit her g-spot with your dick at the same time. You don’t need to go all the way in to hit her g-spot either, it’s only a few inches in.
Doggy
Doggy is fun, and you can make her cum very hard from doggy. When learning how to have sex, it’s the position every man wants to go straight to.
Especially since you can go deeper and harder. It’s a great way to end the sex session. But it takes dick control to be able to last from doggy style. If you don’t have complete dick control either avoid doggy or wait until the end where you don’t mind busting because you already made her cum over and over again.
That being said, doggy is a ton of fun. Knowing how to fuck a girl properly requires that you’re able to fuck the shit out of her like an alpha from doggy. You need to know how to fuck a girl slowly and how to fuck a girl like an animal. This is where you can finally fuck her like a rabbit.
Things to do from doggy
Considering you can last long, doggy is amazing. You can pound it out, or have a slow/med pace. But the power in doggy goes from how deep you can go. And the barbaric feeling of it.
Angle her – face down ass up
There’s a reason why this is a thing. With her face down and ass up, you can do deep and hit the g-spot.
G-spot for doggy
The g-spot itself is only a few inches in. This doesn’t take a big dick to hit. But from doggy, it’s about angling downwards to hit the g-spot. If you stand on a leg so you can get more height, then you can really angle down and get the g-spot easily.
A-spot
If your dick is 6.5 or 7 inches or more, then you can hit the a-spot from doggy. This is where you can deep and feels like you’re hitting her cervix. This can hurt and feel good at the same time to girls.
Hitting a woman’s a-spot is one way to really make her cum hard like a freak. You’ll hear it in how she moans and how her body shakes. If your dick isn’t big enough to reach this then don’t worry. Just angle it downwards to hit the g-spot and she’ll still have a great time.
Hitting the a-spot isn’t necessary when you’re learning how to fuck a girl properly. Not everyone has a big enough dick to make it happen. Don’t feel bad. While a big dick helps, it’s not needed to become a sex master. Instead you can figure out how to fuck a girl well by just going after the g-spot and clit.
Rough or slow sex?
I get asked a lot by guys what’s better – rough or slow sex? Neither is better. And in fact, I usually do both. If you can tell from my techniques above, from foreplay, to starting off slow, to missionary, to doggy, I start off very slow, stay slow for most of it, then medium pace, then rough and fast.
It’s usually starting off slow and ending rough. But within the duration of sex, I’ll speed things up, lightly choke her, and go rough. Then after she cums hard I’ll slow things down.
Both
So it’s best to do both. If you have a girlfriend/wife, then be sure to switch it up. As much as girls love rough sex, most long term partners will get upset if this is all you do. But make no mistake. To know how to fuck a girl the right way involves unleashing her freak and also being a lover.
You should also have slow, love making sessions with a girl you have a strong connection with too.
You can still go deep, and go in powerfully, at a medium or slow pace, and make her cum just as strong that way compared to rough, fast sex. Making her cum at different tempo’s is a key part of discovering how to have sex that makes her come back for more. Because knowing how to fuck a girl isn’t just about plowing through her pussy. Getting good at sex involves being in tune with her.
How to tell if she cums?
Earlier we established that you need to make the girl cum if you want to know how to fuck a girl properly. And therefore, you need to know if she actually cums. Don’t ask her if she came, especially after sex. This ruins the moment and is a turn off. You need to be able to tell when she has an orgasm. I’ve made this mistake before in my beta male days. Don’t ask her.
Now, girls can be unique in how they cum, if they squirt or not, and their exact sounds. But most of them do the same things.
Messed up face
A girl’s face when she cums shouldn’t be a pleasant, soft smile. It should almost look ugly, and very intense. Like she got stung with an adrenaline shot . Basically, it should look embarrassing. If she looks like she’s about to get her picture taken, then you’re doing it wrong.
Legs shaking
Another tell sign is that her legs are shaking. They’ll usually start to shake before she’s about to cum, then a lot when she’s cumming. Some girls shake a lot and some only slightly. But you should be able to notice this. This is involuntary, and a solid sign she’s having an orgasm.
A good sign you’ve figured out how to fuck a girl well is when you can make her cum multiple times.
In ability to speak properly
A girl isn’t able to think straight while cumming. Just like yourself. She shouldn’t be able to speak properly, let alone very well at all, when she’s cumming. At most she should be able to say simple things. Or blurt them out in between her moans.
If you ask her to say something while cumming, like “tell daddy you love this big cock in you”, she should struggle to say it clearly, especially the first time. She should be close to our of breathe and say “I like it” or “yes like it” or “yes” if she says anything at all. Basically she should have a hard time thinking about anything.
Talking dirty during sex
Talking dirty isn’t an essential part of learning how to fuck a girl properly, but it adds in another element. It’s one of those things girls like in bed but won’t ask for most of the time because they don’t want to seem like they’re promiscuous. But if you desire to know how to perform well in bed then realize it’s not just about how you are fucking. It’s also about the other things you are doing, like kissing her, grabbing her ass, biting her neck, and talking dirty.
Even just from missionary, you can make girls cum by adding in dirty talk. Some people prefer not to talk dirty. But I call those people boring. You certainly don’t need to say dirty words to make her cum. It doesn’t hurt though. In fact, it can turn her on and make the sex better. Make the sex sexier. So how do you talk dirty?
You can start off simple. Tell her
- “you feel so good”
- “you’re so tight”
- “I can feel your warmth”
- “I’m so deep inside of you”
This is light, it should be true, and should make her feel good. You don’t want a girl to be insecure during sex. Most women nowadays have seen enough dick to be comfortable, but it’s never a bad thing to say things like this. Don’t go overboard on the compliments. You’re already fucking her.
Light, sexy compliments at most
But you can do light, sexy compliments that will make her feel good and turn her on. Then as the sex progresses, you can go a little further.
- “it feels so good inside of your pussy”
- “I love how wet you are right now”
- “you look so good with my cock inside of you”
As things progress and you’re going faster, rougher, you can advance your dirty talk
- “I can feel you gripping me”
- “Don’t cum yet” (this will tease her and will actually encourage her to)
- “You’re so good at taking this cock”
And so on. You’ll be able to develop your own style the more you learn how to fuck a girl. Some dirty talk uses dirty words. But some of the most powerful things to say to a woman don’t involve that at all. For example, the “I can feel you about to explode” line always turns on the girls. It even makes them cum harder. I also use some of the regular dirty talk that you might find elsewhere.
But mix in powerful statements like that. Most guys just say things like “like this cock?” and “take this big dick you slut”. While that’s something, it’s kind of corny. You can use the lines above or just use what feels natural to you. You can use some of that. But also use statements that will plant ideas in her head. This will build up her orgasms even more.
What not to say
Don’t ask her questions during sex, at least not stupid ones. Communicate by listening to her body.
Way too many guys ask the girl “Like this big cock?” or “you like it like that?” and so on. Even worse, some guys don’t even lead and will ask the girl what position she wants and how she wants to fuck.
The only time you should ask the woman is before you fuck her. When you’re teasing her rubbing your cock in her clit, you can ask her, in a teasing manner, if she wants you inside of her. This way you get consent and make her beg for it.
Stop asking questions
But outside of that, don’t ask the women questions during sex.
Learning how to fuck a girl properly like a sex god isn’t just about moving your dick and thrusting. It’s also about you leading. As a man, you’re the leader. Yes, figuring out what she wants and likes is important. But you do that by picking up on non-verbal cues.
Like the way she reacts to how you move, and certain positions. But if you follow my advice, pretty much all women like it slow, like to have you make them beg to fuck faster, and fuck the shit out of them. They all like to:
- cum before sex
- cum while you’re going slow
- and cum when you finally fuck the shit out of them like they’ve been waiting for
Statements and guiding her
It’s better to just use statements.
You don’t want to get in a habit of asking her questions during sex. Obviously sex should be consensual. But when you’re figuring out how to have sex properly, focus on leading and listening to non-verbal cues. And if she likes something in particular, like you pulling on her hair or grabbing her neck, she’ll let you know by telling you or the way she reacts.
What to avoid
A few things to avoid when learning how to fuck a woman the right way – before sex, during and after.
Asking about orgasm
Like I said earlier, asking questions during sex is bad. And asking questions after can be fine or it can be bad depending on what it is.
But one a big NO is asking her if she came. Don’t ask her if she had an orgasm. You should be able to tell when she’s cumming. If you can’t, then you need a little more practice, and probably need to actually make her cum. Nevertheless, don’t ask her if she cummed. If she didn’t, then she’s going to have to tell you no or lie to you that she did. And if she did, it will still be annoying that you asked. A guy that made her cum should be able to tell.
You don’t need the validation of knowing. At least not to her. That way it’s more natural. However, part of learning how to fuck a girl properly is being able to tell if she orgasmed or not.
In your own mind, you should have the goal of making her cum. And you should know if she cums or not. But if you don’t, avoid asking. It’s a weak move and lowers your value.
Instead, get better at making her cum by focusing on the clit, and get better at noticing signs. But to help you out, it’s usually pretty clear when a girl orgasms. So if it’s not, you either need more work to make her cum, or need to focus more in the moment.
Starting off too fast
A big part of learning how to fuck a girl properly like a ladies man does is slowing down. I mentioned earlier in the article to go slow. But I realize that some of you may rush into things. Maybe she’s really hot and you just wanted to put it in and go fast. Alright, well you can have a few of those to realize it’s not the way to do it.
But you really need to focus on slowing down. Don’t be so quick to stick it in. Make her cum before you even put your cock inside of her. She’s not going anywhere. She’s in your bed and want to fuck you.
Most men start off way too fast. Don’t be one of those. Start slow. Actively try to wait until 10-15 minutes of foreplay before fucking her. See if you can even make her cum twice before sticking your dick in. This will turn her on even more. And you’ll have to do less to make her cum once you’re inside.
Figuring out how to fuck a girl well is so much easier if you just slow down and focus. Don’t worry about sticking your dick in. Have the goal of making her beg for it. Both of you will have a better time.
Eating before
Eating before is a big no. Bad idea. Having a full stomach can slow you down, kill your cardio, and even make you tired to the point where you might not want to have sex. A sex god in training needs to either not eat or eat lightly before a sex session. Happy hour and an appetizer can be fine. But a whole pizza or burger can can figuring out how to fuck a girl properly difficult because you’re not in the best position.
If you’re on a date and you’re hungry, then you can eat a little. Having a drink and an appetizer is fine. Although I avoid food if I know I’m gonna have sex in the next 3-4 hours. If you do eat, keep it light. A light appetizer, a small dessert, or a drink.
Because the best time to eat is after sex.
Don’t get full before sex
Unfortunately, many people start dates with a dinner and then proceed to sex. You’re better off meeting a girl for drinks, fucking, and then get a meal on your own. Or have her make you something after. Get food with her after sex.
Would you eat before a cardio workout? No.
Maybe something small. But you wouldn’t eat a pizza or pasta dish. Treat sex the same. Learning how to fuck a girl the way she wants also means you need to watch what you’re putting into your body. Because a guy who knows how to have sex to please his woman knows it’s easier to do so when he’s not stuffed. He doesn’t need to feel the pizza and tacos go back and forth in his gut as he’s trying to her the best fuck she’s ever had.
Extra factors
You know how to fuck a girl properly and what do avoid. Here’s a few things you should do as part of your sex game plan, besides the actual sex.
Be in shape
Besides having dick power and dick control, you need to be in shape. Controlling your orgasm with dick control is essential. But you also need to have decent cardio.
If you’re out of shape then you might be tired in certain positions. The last thing you want is to be there fucking and wishing it would end because you’re out of breathe. Learning how to have sex is hard enough. Getting on the treadmill and lifting weights is simple, so at least do that.
Limit your alcohol
It’s best to be sober. But I know you may have a drink or two before sex. That’s fine, but just make sure not to go overboard.
It’s hard to learn how to fuck a girl properly to get her addicted, let alone actually have to go do it when you’re drunk as fuck. If you’re getting wasted to last long, then you haven’t mastered dick control yet. And if you’re just drinking too much, then watch your liquor.
You also want her to be sober or very close to it. One because consent is important. And two is because you want her to feel what you’re doing. I
f you learn how to fuck a girl properly and do everything right, but she’s too drunk to feel you or remember, then it’s pointless. Plus drunk sex is very low quality compared to sober sex when you master your sex skills. Getting drunk does not make up for learning how to fuck a girl or last long. You won’t be able to really connect and make a girl addicted to you unless you’re under full control of yourself.
Try your best
You need to try your best with your girlfriend / wife every time. It’s okay if you’re not great at first. You’ll get better, but you need to practice.
Ideally, you’ll get more consistent sex because you’ll now know how to have sex the way she likes it. When you learn how to fuck a girl properly, then your woman will want to keep on having sex with you.
All of the techniques I discussed work. But you need to practice them to get better and master them. Reading it won’t make you a master overnight. You have to implement what you learn to really figure out how to fuck a girl the right way.
Plus, you may develop slightly different positioning or preferences depending on your style, body type, fitness, and even the size of your bed.
Don’t give up when you’re learning how to fuck a girl properly
If you haven’t had a lot of sex, or you’ve developed bad habits, like rabbit fucking from the first stroke, then don’t get discouraged. It may seem like a lot of work to put into this. But soon enough it becomes second nature.
It’s like anything in life. Being a beginner is tough. There’s a lot of effort and mental energy you have to put into this.
But the benefits are huge. You’ll have an incredible sex life and you’ll feel amazing. Your girlfriend / wife will also love you for how you make her feel.
With information all here, you have what you need to up your sex game. And you deserve that. Put in the effort and give yourself the power of becoming the man your woman is fantasizing about. When you know how to have sex like a real man, both you and your woman will benefit immensely.
This is awesome tips! Every guy needs to read this…maybe even some girls if they want! I love how you put energy into writing this for people, wonderful job. Hmu sometime maybe LOL!
Thanks, and yea spread the knowledge.
Yes,its really usefull
I can’t tell you how much this helped me a married man of 23 years! I thought I was good and that my wife just faded from sex because of time. No, I need to relearn the correct way to make love to her, and forge myself back into shape!!
You got this my man. Watch how much better your relationship will get when you start fucking her how she wants you to.
You’re right, most guys don’t know how to fuck properly, and I’ve never been well done or even had an orgasm with the 2 guys I’ve been with. I hope more men and women read this and realize that they need to work hard and try hard – things don’t just come for free.
Exactly. It takes a bit of effort, but it’s definitely worth it.
Good article man! I Dont know if this fits this agenda but hope u help man. Theres a girl back in highschool just loved me (it was her first according to her she felt totally attracted to me). Our highschool was boarding and it was totally hard to see each other so eventually we cut ties but kept just chatting and dating via phone lol!. Luckily in university ( now there’s more freedom to meet with her),i told her let us meet and the first day i sucked because i didnt have a condom and withdrwal method am still not… Read more »
She has negative feelings because you’re acting desperate. Ideally you’re good at sex, but it takes practice like anything else. You made the mistake of acting weak, looking for her approval, and that’s the biggest turn off. This whole article gives you the tools to be good at sex. You can complain that this girl doesn’t like you because you suck in bed, or you can stop making sex a big deal, stop stressing about it, and apply the things you learn here so you get good. And you don’t need to cum during sex. Your goal is to get… Read more »
Thanks for the reply bro. S i should just move on and stop thinking about it right?
Well this is all very nice information. As a 24 year old man, in shape, yes I lift weights. I don’t have a problem getting women. But the problem is frankly I suffer from pretty bad performance anxiety, no matter how hard I try I can’t get up or maintain an erection. The women expect a lot out of me. But frankly I haven’t had real sex before in my whole life because of this issue. It’s happened on every occasion. And the one time I did actually penetrate, I didn’t really “feel” it. I’ve had girls leave because of… Read more »
It’s not a physical issue for you, so not sure how much that will help. You’re mentally associating sex with manhood, which is causing you to over value it and therefore get anxiety. The reason your dick goes limp is because you’re not turned on anymore. Think about it, when you get nervous or worry about how you’ll do, you aren’t sexually aroused anymore and therefore will go soft. Your best bet would be to hold off on sex until you get in a relationship. That way the anxiety will be less because you won’t be as worried about the… Read more »
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