How to Last Long in Bed: Destroying Premature Ejaculation

How to Last Long in bed

How to last long in bed

If you want to finally learn how to last long in bed then you’ve come to the right place.

The majority of the men around the world, except for a small pool of permanent virgins, have sex at some point in their lives.

Many men can’t last long

However, 30% of men suffer from premature ejaculation, and most of those men bust between 15 and 60 seconds.

This means that 3 in 10 men can’t even last a minute in bed.

But it’s not much better for the rest.  The average length of sex between a man and a woman is only 7.3 minutes.

And the reason behind that is pretty clear.

Men suffer from premature ejaculation, or just can’t last as long as they’d like to.

If you can fuck for five minutes but that’s your max, you technically don’t suffer from PE.  Nonetheless, if you want to learn how to last long in bed, then you need to work on your orgasm control.

Why lasting long and orgasm control is important

The majority of men can’t last very long in bed.  That’s a problem.

At least it might be for you.

Why should you care about lasting longer in bed?

If you want to

  • have a satisfying sex life with your partner
  • cure oneitis by knowing you can fuck any girl well
  • be a player and get girls addicted to your cock
  • be the sexual alpha male
  • keep your girlfriend of wife satisfied and prevent them from cheating
  • have great sex with a girl you’re fucking on the first date
  • reach incredible levels of pleasure through mind blowing sex
  • be able to make a girl cum multiple times
  • be able to last as long as you want in bed
  • feel more confident about your abilities in the bedroom

Then learning how to last long in bed will do a lot to improve your sex life.

And that will carry over to your relationships, whether you’re a player or playboy, or a faithful boyfriend / husband.

Like a superpower

How to have sex: Become a sex god

When you first are able to figure out how to last long, it’s like a superpower.

Gaining the control over your orgasm empowers you in a new way.

Dick control is necessary

Before I did this article, I almost forgot what it was like not to have that.  It didn’t take long to think back to when I was 17 and getting laid for the first time.

Man I busted so quickly.

Even the second time I had sex I didn’t last that long.

After the first few times I was able to last a few minutes, but this was so unsatisfactory for me.

I wanted to be able to just figure out how to last long the first time I fucked a girl.  I didn’t have the dick control that I needed.

Dick control

Without that dick control, you can only last a few minutes.

And unless the girl you’re with was a virgin or had a really low body count, she’s going to look for better dick.

Every guy has a few times where he busts too quickly.

It’s normal when you’re young and have raging hormones.  But after it happens, you need to do something to the care of the problem.

That’s why I’m going to cover a few methods you can use to master your now dick and finally learn how to last long in bed.

Please read this throughly, and remember that this takes some work.

It won’t happen overnight.  But with consistent effort in applying these methods, you should see results in 4 to 6 weeks.

Methods to Lasting Longer

The best methods to lasting longer are

  • Edging
  • Reverse Kegels
  • Kegels

Combine them in your dick control regime and you will gain mastery over your orgasm.


edging graph

Edging a proven way to increase your stamina.

It’s simply masturbating until you’re close to orgasm, and then stopping or slowing down to the point where you’re not going to cum anymore.

Edging isn’t just masturbating once a day to numb your dick.

It’s about trying to go for as long or longer than the sex will be.

You’re training yourself physically and mentally to be able to go for more time.  Similar to the basic graph above, you rise up, or get closer to orgasm, then stop or glow slowly, edging away from orgasm.

How to edge

It’s best to edge for at least 20 minutes, and ideally 30 minutes to 40 minutes if you have the time.

3-4 times a week will give your dick enough time in-between to rest.

Make sure to use lube or something other than you’re dry ass hand when you’re doing this.

Or if you’re a weird fuck you can spit on your own dick and imagine a girl is blowing you.

Also, go slow at first.

Try to simulate what sex is going to be like.

No need to jack hammer away.

Start slow and build it up like you would during sex.

When you’re going to cum, either stop completely or slow down to the point where you can prevent an orgasm.

Ideally, it’s best to slow down to the point where you prevent the orgasm rather than just stop flat out.

Once you’re done with your session, you can allow yourself to cum.

If you’re trying to harness your sexual energy for massive action, then that’s another story.

But for just lasting longer in bed, it’s best to let yourself cum at the end.

No porn

Don’t watch porn while you edge.

Use your own fantasies.

Porn will get you used to women you won’t see in real life.

And porn is terrible example of how sex really is.

It will encourage you to go hard the whole time you’re edging and isn’t beneficial to your progress.

You’ll enjoy the sex you have in real life without the influence of porn.

Reverse kegels

reverse kegels

You’ve might’ve heard of kegels as exercises women do to make themselves tighter.

And I’ll get into them in a second.

But reverse kegels are much more important for men, especially when it comes to lasting longer.  You do reverse kegels and regular kegels by activating the PC muscle, shown above.

Reverse kegel exercises for men are key to gaining control over your orgasm.  And therefore attaining dick control

Remember, don’t spend all your time just doing regular kegels.  Reverse kegels are way more important.

This exercise will be used directly in sex to prevent you from cumming.

How to do a reverse kegel

Doing a reverse kegel involves pushing the muscles out, preventing the energy from leaving your body.

In essence, a strong reverse kegel used during sex prevents an orgasm.

It’s great to use these while you’re going hard after warming her up and making a girl cum.  You do them just before you’re about to cum.

The easiest way to do a reverse kegel to push out like you’re trying to take a shit.

Yea, the muscles you use to poop when it’s not coming out are the same ones you’re going to use to last longer laying the pipe.

Imagine you have to push a shit out.

Now do that when you don’t have to take a shit, and you’re doing a reverse kegel.

How often

Do reverse kegels a few times a day, for 20 to 30 seconds at a time.

Once you practice them enough, you can do them at work, driving, whenever.

You might want to do the first few alone to make sure your face doesn’t get all red like you’re taking a dump.

Alls it takes is a few times a day, everyday.

You can take a day or two off here and there, but you should do these at least 5 times a week.

During sex, you’ll do this same “pushing out” feeling of the reverse kegel to prevent yourself from orgasming.


Kegels are the opposite of reverse kegels.

They’re still important to do to even out your PC muscles, or whatever the make up is of your dick control muscles.

The main reason to do kegels is to even out your training.

Like every other muscle group or posture, it’s best to be even or at least somewhat even.

How to do a kegel

Imagine you’re trying to prevent yourself from taking a piss or a shit.

The “holding in” feeling is a kegel.

How often

You can do these a few times a day for 20 to 30 seconds like the reverse kegels.

I tend to just do them once a day.

They’re not as important as reverse kegels for directly lasting longer, and therefore need less attention.

Still, I like to make sure my body is balanced, so I make sure to do them at least once a day, 5 times a week.

Combining edging and reverse kegels

The next level to combine edging and reverse kegels to last longer than you’ve ever could before.

What you’ll do is edge like you normally would.

And when you get close to busting a nut… you use the power of the reverse kegel.

You “push out” and block the sex energy from energy from leaving your body.

Doing the reverse kegel before you’re about to cum will prevent the orgasm from happening.

It will cut off a little but of blood to the dick as well and slightly numb you.

Which effectively will allow you to keep masturbating and avoid orgasming.

You can imagine using this during sex.

When you’re fucking a girl and you’re about to cum, use the reverse kegel to last longer.

It may not work perfectly the first time you try this with edging.

I’d recommend edging and doing reverse keels separately for 2-3 weeks.

Then add the reverse kegels into your edging regime.

Practice and experience

good sex

If you have a girlfriend then sex with her is the perfect time to put your new skills to use.

You’ll likely realize that the reverse kegels while fucking will help, but not totally prevent an orgasm at first.

That’s okay.

Keep having sex with her and keep on doing your exercises.

After applying this to sex for a month or so, you should have very good control of your dick.

  • 2-4 weeks beforehand + 4 weeks of doing it during sex = 6-8 weeks to strong dick control.

It will probably take 3 months or so to get complete dick control.

But that’s honestly not too bad, and totally worth putting a little bit of work in to last as long as you want.  This will be tough to do if you’re not having sex regularly.

Consistent sex partner to practice with

While I never recommend marriage due to the threat of divorce rape, having a relationship can provide an great opportunity to improve upon your sex skills.

However, for all my players out there, there’s still room to be creative.

Practice lasting longer with the regular girls that come over for sex .

You can also use this on new girls if you’re getting laid on the first date.

Just keep in mind that it’s best to have a fuck buddy or a few girls you’re fucking consistently to use this on in order to make sure you’re able to improve.

It doesn’t take much time to learn how to last long with this method.  But you’ll need to practice it with real girls and not just your hand for you to reach true mastery.

Other temporary methods

I just gave you some simple exercises to help you last longer and become a king in bed.

But for whatever reason you don’t want to put in the work?

Well, you have some alternatives.



You should always wear a condom with a new girl or girl you haven’t been fucking for a few months.

Condoms are actually enough for many men to last longer and have more control over their dick.  Couple that with a few drinks, and many men think they know how to last long.

However, if you can’t fuck a girl raw for as long as you’d like, then you still don’t know how to last long yet.

Condoms are still great to use.  But you should be using them to prevent std’s and pregnancy.

They won’t be enough if you suffer from serious premature ejaculation.  That being said, they can be a solid tool to use, combined with your kegel exercises.

Condoms are great for taking the edge off, which can make a difference when you’re still learning how to last long.


Drinking is another method that many, many men rely on.

A couple of drinks can take the edge off, similar to a condom.  And your first dates turning into lays may start with a few drinks.  No harm in that.

But you have to be careful.

Too much drinking can lead to a soft dick.  And you can’t last at all if you can’t get it up.

Avoid alcohol as a crutch

Plus, you don’t want drinking to be a crutch.  If you’re able to go for a long time the first fuck because you were buzzed, but busted in 3 minutes the next time during sober sex, then you won’t be able to get a girl addicted to your dick.

I love alcohol, but it should only be used as an icebreaker.1 or 2 drinks is it.  You don’t want to be paying for 4 or 5 drinks and end up with an expensive date, a whisky dick, and a girl who’s too drunk.

It shouldn’t be used as a real method to learn how to last long in bed.  Because you’re not learning anything or getting better as using it to keep you from orgasming early.

Coffee and Stimulants


Coffee and other stimulants can actually help you last a bit longer during sex.

At an extreme level, cocaine is one of the most powerful stimulants.  Using cocaine can help you last longer in bed if you’re able to maintain an erection, but can also numb you too much.

I also never recommend doing cocaine, in general and especially for sex.  Just using it as an example.

Coffee is definitely not cocaine, but is still a stimulant.  If you suffer from getting a hard erection, then avoiding it would be best.

Effects are minimal

But if you don’t, it might be able to help take the edge off of your orgasm.  However, not to the same level condoms or alcohol would.  The effects are still pretty minimal.

You can play around with other stimulants as well, although I don’t recommend these for sex.  Having too much caffeine can make you anxious and make sex less enjoyable.

I’ll meet women for coffee, but I’ll have one cup or have a tea drink.  So I’m not taking in that much caffeine before a possible first date fuck.

Besides, there are other types drugs you can use to enhance your sex life that are much better.  With a doctor’s prescription of course.

Tips during sex

By now you’ve realized that doing the reverse kegels + edging are the best excursuses you can do to learn how to last long.

But even while you’re working on building up your dick control, there’s a few other things you can do during sex.

Three big things to focus on while learning how to last long:

  1. Foreplay
  2. Starting sex slow
  3. staying in missionary


kissing foreplay

Foreplay is the first step.  Don’t rush this.  There are times for quickies and getting right into it.

But 90% of your fucks should start with heavy foreplay.  Take the time to kiss her neck, then kiss her body, her tits.  Rub the outside of her pants on her pussy.

Don’t just try to stick your dick in right when the panties come off.  Finger her.  Rub her clit with your middle finger or your pointer + middle fingers.

Make her cum this way at least once before fucking.  That way she’ll get off before you even stick your dick inside.

Even if you do bust quickly, she’ll still have gotten to cum at least once and had a good time.  Plus, the fact that she busted will help you to relax.  And you’ll be more likely to last long during sex anyways.

Start slow

start slow with sex

So you’re getting ready to put your dick in her.  Rub the outside of your dick on her clit.

Tease her.

Then put the tip in, then take it out.  Then out your dick in a few inches, then take it out.  She should be grabbing you to try and get you to fuck her by now.

Slowly, put your dick inside of her all the way.

Figuring out how to last long isn’t that hard if you don’t go in fucking full speed right away.

Continue to run her clit while fucking her slowly.  If she’s begging you to go faster, then she’s excited, and you’re doing a good job.  A lot of sex for women is mental.

Go slow and deep.  That, combined with continual clit rubbing should get her to cum over and over again.

If you need to pull out for a second, that’s fine.  Continue to rub her clit to give her stimulation.  The main point is to go slow.  Eventually when you’re close to cumming, practice the reverse kegel you’ve been working on.

Implementing the Reserve kegel

If you’re reverse kegel is successful, you’ll be able to keep thrusting and continue having sex.  This is a HUGE milestone.  And you’re 5 steps farther along in your journey to know how to last long in bed.

Don’t worry if you aren’t able to hold it back.  Pull our your dick to keep lasting or bust if you want.  Keep on working on your kegel exercises outside of sex and try again.  It might take a few times, but you’ll get it soon.

Remember, the reverse kegel is the same feeling like you’re trying to push out a shit.  And a heads up, needing to actually have to shit + having coffee before is a bad idea.  So use the bathroom before sex.

Stay in missionary

Missionary sounds boring.  But it’s all you need to make a girl cum over and over again.

And the best part about missionary is that it gives you control over the tempo that you to go.

Stay in missionary.  You can still play around with this by doing different variations.


  • Regular missionary
  • One of her legs over your shoulder
  • Both of her legs over your shoulders
  • Both of her legs pushed back with your hands so her knees are close to her shoulders
  • Missionary on the side, so you’re laying side by side.  You can have one arm holding up her top leg.

And so on.  There are plenty of ways to make missionary fun.

Doggy style

Some of my best memories are fucking a woman doggy style while pulling on her hair and smacking her ass.  But I already have dick control.

If you don’t have that, then you’re going to bust a nut in under a minute in that position.


  1. Lasting a few minutes without busting
  2. Holding back on an orgasm
  3. Holding back on an orgasm while still thrusting
  4. Being able to hold back on an orgasm multiple times without losing speed
  5. Complete dick control

Here are a few milestones you can check off on your journey to learn how to last long.

Once you’re able to last a few minutes without busting, then try holding back an orgasm with a reverse kegel.  You can pull out for a few seconds if needed.  Just tell the girl she feels so good and you had to take a breather.

Next milestone is holding back an orgasm while still thrusting.  You can slow down, but still want to be having sex.

Holding the orgasm back while still thrusting 

This is the the HUGE milestone I mentioned above.  Once you’ve done this, you’ve successfully proved you know how to last long in bed.

The other milestones, like holding back more moments before ejaculation come pretty quickly after.

Soon enough you’ll gain complete dick control.  Meaning you can last as long as you want during sex.

How to last long – test for full control?

how to last long - doggy style

You know you’ve obtained orgasm control when you can consistently last in doggy style for as long as you want.

I’m not saying do missionary your whole life.  You can make a girl cum over and over again from going deep in doggy.  But if you want to do that, start with missionary.

Build up your dick control.  Practice doing the reverse kegels during sex.  When you get stronger at preventing orgasms, you can try out doggy.  Eventually, you’ll be able to fuck the shit out of her for as long as you want.

But even when you get this powerful, remember to start slow.  I still start off sex slow and sensual to make the girl want it.  There are times for quickies and getting straight into hot, intense sex.

However, most of your sex sessions should start out with foreplay and easing your way into it.  Learn how to last long, then become a sex god, and have the sex life you always wanted.  Every man should have that kind of fun in his life.

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9 months ago

All your content is game changing! So appreciative. Have you got any advice for performance anxiety? Sometimes in the bed room i have fear of either cumming quick or not getting hard ect when i know i should be confident!

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9 months ago

My man

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